What do you think about this?

[~SomeGurl~]

So...I have this little video of me asking Savannah if she loves her daddy, she shakes her head no. My sister and brother in law ask her all the time does she want to go see daddy. I think it is just so cute, and so do they. My sister thinks I should post it on myspace, but I feel bad about it. I know it is cute, but something just feels wrong about it. I don't want his sister to see it.
I am going to try my best not to bad mouth Will around his children, no matter how terrible he has been I don't want them to resent me or think that I made them think he was so bad. I want them to see the truth when they grow up and know that he walked out on them and didnt want them, i had nothing to do with it....
So i feel like i shouldnt allow my family to talk about him, and I usually tell them not to. she is so little now that she doesnt really know what they are talking about anyways. besides, she doesn't even know what or who a daddy is. He doesnt even act like a father much less a daddy....
so my question is...do you think this is cute or terrible?

and should i post it for the rest of my Will hating friends/family on myspace to enjoy? I don't think I am going to, but I do kinda feel like I still take up for him too much, and I should have a laugh at his expense while she is still too little to know the difference...i dunno.

[Morgalis]

I vote that she is DAMN CUTE!!!

The one thing that I have strove to do in my children's lives is to allow them to make up their own decision about their bio dad. For me, it is completely disrespectful to my children to colour their opinion based on how I feel. I took their high road 17 years ago when I left my abusive husband and started a new life. Their opinion of their bio dad is their own they formed.

I am sorry, but personally I think the 'revenge' aspect of this cheapens you. Children, no matter what the age, should never be used as pawns that create bad feelings about another. From what you have written, that is what it feels like you are doing.

Sorry to be blunt.

On another note, it is great to see how bug Savannah. I can't believe that she is up on her feet and looking so happy! I hope you share more of her soon.

[~SomeGurl~]

i am glad you are so blunt. thats why i posted for opinions. everything is so onesided with my family and friends they all hate him. i know in my heart it feels wrong to let them put him down around her and i plan to stop it especially when she gets older. i just feel so stupid when i fuss at them for badmouthing him because everything thet say is true and they always say i am just taking up for him.
she is a happy baby. i am just so worried about what i am going to tell her in a few years when she asks where he is or why he doesnt love her. i feel like when she gets older she will never be truly happy. my sisters bio dad never wanted her, my dad adopted her at 2 yrs old and she always called him daddy, but when she got older she had alot of problems and still tells me to this day that i could never imagine hte hurt that she has had because her bio dad never wanted anything to do with her. i just hate that my babies may have to feel that way. especially since i dont see myself having any other man in my life anytime soon. the only other man i wanted to spend my life with and i would ever trust to be around my kids just got married :(

[Morgalis]

Thanks for being open to my opinion Candi!

The nice thing about kids is that they don't know what a typical family model is. Gay/Lesbian parents face that struggle, why do I have two moms or two dads. The very interesting part of it is that their children don't know that having two moms/dads is not what society deems is a family unit. It is only when they are 3-4 yrs old that they start to socialize and start asking questions why other people are different. So don't worry about having to tell her that her dad doesn't love her in a year, she is not going to ask. :)

About your guy, they say that all of the good men are either gay, taken or not met yet. Hold out for the "not met yet" because there is someone out there that is waiting to meet you! I was a single parent for 3 years and then met Zer online quite by accident or fluke. It definitely was fate though. We've been together 13 years and he's the best Dad in the whole entire world :)